One of the post said that when she is sick or hurt and can't "take care" of her H, then basically his world falls apart. I am not an illness. A few weeks ago, he reiterated (I think he's said this once before) why nothing worked: while he professed to wanting a relationship with me, he actually is unable to form personal connections. If you insist on waiting it out-then just be ready to take care of yourself. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. Make sure he understands how much you like the connectionbut also how hurtful it can be when it's inconsistent. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read, Tell me about it..My husband lacks sympathy for me and the kids, His entertainment comes before anything else, They take as much as they can for as long as we allow it, Yes Dear Dede sadly we do know of that you speak:), https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd. We've never broached this subject before and I'm worried about it ending up in a fight. I guess its just a character flaw of his! It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. If they get ill first, and then I get ill? If he is in a tank with filtration, you need to change about 20-30% of his water weekly. We already talked last night and we good now. Dont gauge this for the rest of your marriage. He always says "you don't know me and to give him a chance to prove himself". And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sun, 04/16/2017 - 10:08. I, ME, MINE!! He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. If you ever became terminal, he would run for the hills. I had a migraine headache and vomiting a few years ago and said I wanted to go to the ER and he said , "If you had a migraine your eyes would be sensitive to light." Narcissistic SpouseDoesnt Care whether You Live Or Die. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. No words. Commitment, sacrifice, partnering are too boring and difficult..not a part of love to H. Love is only themoment's pleasure to him. He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. I wasn't even allowed to adjust my own pillows. Iv been with my partner only 2 years yet everytime hes sick he bails out to go with his mates or even when I'm not sick, that or either on his game all day. Sign #11: Doesnt talk about the future. Female here sick and tired of whiny twats like you. Anyway, I digress. I really would like some aspirin now and not in 5 hours! When I'm sick, yes. BTW, when ourkids are sick he is mean and heartless. In the main area of the house there should be 2 colors, and now there are at least 5. Submitted by sickandtired on Fri, 12/11/2020 - 08:44. Join hosts Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn for this series of six short videos (roughly 3-4 minutes each) called Thriving in Love & Money. Theyll offer helpful tips, informed by years of research and based on their new book, to help you and your spouse explore the underlying issues that lead to financial conflict and consider healthy ways to He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. When someone is sick or injured.I'm first respondentjust so you know? Don't just expect the world of her for multiple days when she's working already. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:07. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. I like what Melissa said earlier, about becoming the person our husbands fell in love with. I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. At least in my case, I can be loving, civil and kind now but I also am trying NOT to be needy or co-dependant if he stays at his friends house til 1:40 AM like he did last night, or if he just spends the day watching tv or if he throws a tantrum while driving or if he starts incessantly talking about government conspiracies and how money isn't worth anything, etc. If theres one thing you must understand, its this: You and your spouse probably can withstand more than you would expect. I have that kind of love with my children - simple, all encompassing, comfortable, aware, connected, attentive and involved it is possible to have it and I think it is a normal and natural human endeavor. to stand on my own and realize that until he gets help, this will not change and so it was time to live and grow and be "the mistress of my domain and my life". He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. So pick your battles my friends and learn about yourself in the process. Very hard to comprehend and maybe that means we are ok.It is illogical and very sad to live with like that from both sides. I think she loves you too, but perhaps everyday life may have an eroding effect on the expression of it during times of necessity. He didn't. I often try to put myself in his shoes and think "God I am so happy I am not like that". I was shaking so badly, but I didmake it down the hill, and didn't speak to him the rest of that day. I do believe he loves me. He didn't sleep well last night because he was stuffed up, coughing, etc. Can totally relate to your post. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. It was a high pressure job in sales and recruiting, with a manager who later got in trouble for harrassingstaff and being absolutely unprofessional. But if I need or expect something maybe not so much because it wont register as now/love but as someone upset whether the upsetedness is valid or not. Would she normally kiss you before going to work? (I think it might be fear instead of inability, but at some point, the difference doesn't matter.) Recallingthe time I told him I was really sick in the morning before swim workout and he told me I had to go anyway? Blank and emotionless with no expression at all? Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. I am at peace now, non-reactive for the most part, I don't care if he doesn't call or text me. I often hear that if a person wants to be with you, they will. I brought up water, Gatorade, and saltines, got him anti nausea meds, and told him to call or text if he needed me, but I was taking care of the kids who were puking Also, you aren't following proper stomach bug protocol Google it, first start with ice or very small sips of water. How many people have you slept with in your life?? Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to My husband believes he's Mr. Fix-It, and can fix anything. He is scared about his health lately. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? It was your plan all along to leave me on my own, wasn't it?!". You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. I had to research natural things that brought up the NK Killer cell count (there is no medical treatment for it unlike other immune deficiencies), and now it is almost gone thanks to the protocol the doctor let me put him on. Wanting to CONNECT? My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. Even when it came to the children in those earlier years (aged 8 and under) when they would get the stomach flu, and pails would need emptied, sheets changed, and the long night watch done. When I am sick I want to be left alone, just let me sleep it off. When I was3 months pregnant, wetook a trip to Mexico. Now he is fine with it, he got used to it and I feel its because I did not cave in to the codependency. Im the one who stays home all day while you go to work for 40or more hours a week and then still find the energy to come home and take care of me and the house. Submitted by PoisonIvy on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 15:38. Fortunately, I feel a little better now. Any time I am not at 100% to run the household, restock the coffee, cook meals, put the kids to bed, do the laundry, etc. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. I guess what i m saying is although the strategy may have a great chance of success for some, there isn't any upside in my case. Maybe he's dated someone like that. Which to that, I feel he used me to have someone to marry and to love HIM, but he knew he wasn't going to return that. They'll let me be to recuperate, since they know it's nasty. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. I didn't get medical help until nearly 12 hours later. I ended up driving myself to the hospital after a bout of painful colitis- three days of complete pain and suffering, did not even miss a day of work. There is something good though. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. I think many spouses with ADD are extremely selfish and will never realize that a healthy relationship requires compromise, compassion, and patience. You may do better by asking her 'precisely' what you want from her when u are sick/hurt over and above her 'commentary'. I would have been down on my kneesbegging for forgiveness.for making me go swimming with 104 degree temperatureand not believing me or showing the concern when I was told that I was sick and didn't feel well? That's great! Okay, WE?? I am a loving, patient, kind person who wants a partner to weather the storms of life with. I dont expect to be doted on and coddled when Im sick, but some level of But still, if I do get sick and need something, he's there, doing whatever. All part of marriage, I guess. That is not an ADHD trait as far as it is with me? Then we must note that he attempts, albeit it is poor and generic advice, to advise you on your illness. Set up a way for it to not be inconsistent. Life goes on around us when we are sick. Of course, I got no help from him with ANYTHING for the 6 weeks my foot was in the cast. If you are in the full Alright. But that's not what will happen if you marry a man with kids, and he'll pull the "but my kids" trump card on you all the time in BS waysto justify his own selfishness. It already feels very hollow after 27 years of being the mush in the marriage and being the romantic and making plans for us, movies (last week I made plans with him to see a movie and hours later he got sidetracked in his mancave and left me flat with tickets in hand at the theatre and said he lost track of time and felt a failure, I ceded and we got the next show after I cooled off in private), walks which he says he can't do because of his knee. Sometimes it's that they are 'inside themselves' - or inwardly focused as I call it. Submitted by overwhelmedwife on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 06:05. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. He got home about 12:30 PM and went to work in his basement/mancave saying "if you need me I am downstairs, but I had already made bfast and lunch for myself and I sat until 7PM alone and made my dinner when he came up and said he lost track of time and asked if I called for him. I see we are out of aspirin and ask him if he knows of any in the house. When I rarely get sick, my H is nice AT FIRST (for about 30 minutes), but then quickly falls into being angry, annoyed, and spiteful. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. And again, why ask me to come back to him if he still can't DO that? Nothing. Hewas an abusive, narcissistic Asshole. I was too kind, wanting to help TOO much, and didn't set boundaries. My husband has a 'man cold' right now. My husband continued to be gone 4-5 nights a week with activities and my kids were completely out of control during this time, so I was exhausted and dealing with severe behavior issues each evening. But it was terrible to watch my child suffer like that. Now not now and love. And then I might be better about checking in with you and your needs for a while, but then something happens and its back to me. I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. I had started a new job so I could not take him to get his surgery, but I did leave work early, come home and take care of him, make chicken soup, the whole deal. We're still at the beginning of our diagnostic and therapeutic journey. I have taken you for granted. I gotvery sick from what I ate. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. I am not overwhelmingly rude or obnoxious or in his face. Does she get sick often?Wondering how sympathy for each other is usually when one of you is sick. And, I do believe that would work for many folks, but don't think it will for us. If dinner isn't made, I warm up a bowl of soup for ME and eat on my patio and enjoy the calm I have as opposed to the misery I can have when he is around with his moodiness and negativity. If it's me first? #1. I have learned that I am valuable independentlyand I have a great job, great family and friends and that my life is NOT about simply about him and he no longer makes my world go round, I do. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife becomes so upset that she cries and the husbands response is indifference, anger, frustration, or denial. Fear,is the one that gets the most use, and what he bases most of his interactions with. I am the best thing he has ever had. Submitted by vabeachgal on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:25. Now I'm going to get sick! There is a lot going on in that active brain and it takes a lot of inward attention to keep going. Its an open concept house and he's painted the walls all different colors, but again, half done. I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. Thank her sincerely for doing these things to you inspite of her 'reservations'. (I'm not sure if he came over on the Friday night from 9 pm to 8 am.). Ihave neglected you. Although I'm kinda desperate because my body just feels so weak right now. Etc. Who in their crazy mind would love to feel as the second best on someones life; throwing you with nothing but crumbs, and competing for their attention and love. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. Even though we were engaged and had a date set, I still shouldn't have gotten pregnant, and THAT action left me with something that I would have to deal with the rest of my life. He love(s) the one he is with..as in.."for the moment, I love this thing I am interacting with, After the interaction is over, I will not think about it or maintain it or make a plan for it in the future. I'm curious to see a female's perspective on this, especially someone who has been married to see if this holds true. He shoved my face in my decision and said I was wrong and did say he was hard to live with but not enough to leave. Kathy woke-up startled to hear her phone ring so at 5 am. You never falter. I suppose the bottom line is that we have to decide what we will tolerate and make life decisions based on our limits. It was my truck. I had to pay out of pocket to see a naturopathic doctor trained by ILADS(it is the best training for Lyme disease and tick borne infections treatment.) I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. And vice versa. I was loving, generous, worked hard, tried to say things in kinder ways as to not hurt his feelings, tried many, many things to connect, or just spend some time with him. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). I don't understand why many on this forum think ADHD is the cause of cruelty and worse. Hed get one color half done, then start on a new color somewhere else. Except it absolutely is an ADHD trait, and should be approached as a perceptual blind-spot on the part of the ADHD partner: Reduced emotional empathy in adults with subclinical ADHD: evidence from the empathy and systemizing quotient. Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. I'm feeling better now! So, does he want me around because he's afraid he's dying? I always wished I had the guts to leave him but the codependencykept me there. It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. The world should recognize his presence and he should be treated with utmost respect while giving none in returnto ANYONE! No one has ever taken a day off when I was sick . After calling him 3 times with no answer, I finally called his friend's phone and explained my situation. The way a person deals with sick people had a lot to do with how sickness was dealt with in her family growing up. It was a costly move but I just was happy he was getting help. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Thu, 04/13/2017 - 16:22. I invite him to things I know he will say no to just to be nice but then I go and enjoy myself. If you need help, I will cook dinner". It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. Some men are selfish creatures. They will always be more important than you. Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. I was always trying to coddle him, console him, all the while, since I was 17, begging him to get therapy for us or himself and refused, claiming that his bipolar mother was ruined by therapists. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. WebYES, YOU CAN! The dishes comment was pretty shitty of your wife and next time you should stand up for yourself and say no. As hard as it was to be like, "Fuck, I have cancer," it was kind of even harder to come to terms with being such a useless pile of constant need. It wasnt until recently that I found my voice. So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. Recently I was knocked down by a I pretend I am single and take care of me and my home for me. he gets very angry. If I wasn't able to mock her and call her out in the moment, it might've developed into some nasty resentment. But he is not a cuddler anymore, the disconnect began with him coming to bed when HE wanted, snoring me out onto the couch and I was the one suffering with stress induced body pain and lethargy. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100. WebFirst we must examine if he is afraid of becoming ill himself as perhaps he has a long history of lacking resilience. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. I haven't been yelled at once while expressing myself. I've seen SO deeply moved by the plight of others. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. This detachment causes children to grow up detached from making intimate friendships and relationships as an adult, to closely love others. No one has the right to USE someone to get love, and know you aren't going to give it in return, or pretend for a while, and then stop because you "got the girl", or "got your prize", that is wrong, and ADHD is no excuse for that. Your husband is a narcissist, sorry to say. It seemed only logical, Im the identified patient right? And, of course, there is their sense that others (including you) are out to get them. I left work early and took them to hospital, tended them there, brought them home and generally took care of as much as I could to keep them comfortable and on the way to mending throughout. Don't worry your anxiety to high and relax. No hugs, kisses, attention, praise, cuddling just for cuddlings sake. Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. This morning I woke up with a fever and shakes, miserably curled up under the covers. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same Have enough respect without ego to treat yourself with a non-toxic man or woman. Do I wish that were not the case? this was my question. Thanks a lot!" So I choose to let it go and know he is limited by the ADHD and other disorders that are undiagnosed until he can be humble and let go of his pride, and that right there is bigger than any disorder one can have. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. Everyone, strangers and those that love and tolerate him see an issue. Why? So many of the situations seem so crazily familiar. "He worked all week ~ he's Tired and Deserves to Rest"!!! I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. You can find even more stories on our Home page. There's definitely a disconnect. I don't think there is a way to forgive things like this. This becomes a real problem for me in one area especially. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. WebBy sick, I mean a minor cold. (We do imitate our parents). I agree 100%. So I've (40m) been married ten years now and I love my wife (40f), but she has the most annoying behavior pattern whenever I am sick. I don't think it's right, but I think it's true. You cant expect people to stop. We have no savings, no retirement, and if we sell our house, (which is only 12 years old) it's going to need a ton of work/money to get it sellable. You dont care about my illness. Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. I hope you left him. All big red flags. You are not important. I paid for every cent at that point and insurance for me/him. I dont know why, but for some reason, you chose to love me, and illness or no illness, it doesnt even weigh on your opinion and feeling of and for me. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. I would blame him for screwing up mine. He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. He even broke the kitchen sink to where it only puts out hot water. What symptoms first occurred in I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. Clearly you know it's a problem and you're still in that relationship and most likely going to have kids with him yourself and then act like oh no poor me I still got married and had kids with the guy that's treated me like crap since day one. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. All big red flags. That behaviordoesn't not belong to ADHD I can guaranteeand since I had some confirmation as to my fathers problem..I can say that in his casethat was NPD! Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. | Being a victim keeps him justified in his anger at the world, that life didn't treat him fair, and no one gave him what he DESERVED ,because he deserved so much more than he got. (he can't) He pinches pennies, in trying to fix something that he's usually broken himself, but then it ends up costing us double or triple in do-overs. 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