When you freeze someone, you not only hurt them but you too. Exclusion and rejection literally hurt, John Bargh, a psychology professor at Yale, told me. If you ignore someone because you want to break up and dont want to deal with the potential fallout, you ghost them. If you hate being ignored, why make a pattern out of it? It makes your relationship remain on the surface level and focuses on control and power rather than love and partnership. Remember thereby, that silence as a psychological warfare tool is most effective when the actions of another warrant its use. Famous psychologists tend to provide famous quotes, but psychologists don't have a corner on the market when it comes to providing wisdom and inspiration. Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865). "Somewhere between retina and object, between vision and view, his eyes draw back, hesitate, and hover. You might not even know why this person is ignoring you. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish. Once I was able to talk to him about it, I realized he had no clue what he said had offended me or why. Though you may not exactly look for validation, the missed calls and texts will provide some sort of measurement as to the pain youve caused. [Read: Like ghosting? One minute youre angry, the next minute youre sad. Persistence in the face of disappointment is the key to success. And sometimes, the psychological effects of being ignored by someone you love can damage your mental health. [Read: 25 must-follow relationship rules for a successful relationship]. when used right. 13. Some people may not even consciously choose it at all. Before you saw the name of the quote's author, you may have guessed that it was uttered by Harvard professor Timothy Leary. Her father died during one of those dreaded periods, Williams told me. But once you can uncover the real reasons why you ignore someone, not the ones you convince yourself, you can stop doing it. Self defense methods which are used in offensive ways constitute abuse. Ignoring someone is not an act of love. This puts a lot of emphasis on silent treatment. This is a form of emotional abuse, and if they wont acknowledge you, then you will feel depressed unless you take measures to avoid that. //