Of course I wish these horrible things never happened, but certainly I'm grateful I've reached a place where life is okay and there's plenty to be thankful for. Theirs is one burial, it seems, that truly no one wants to see. How do you preside over the funeral of a 17-year-old boy who went to school one Tuesday morning and, with his good buddy Eric Harris, massacred 13 people just for fun? Marxhausen and Kirsten (and their colleagues) were engaged in spiritual triage, tending to hundreds of traumatized families. We will review the memorials and decide if they should be merged. This flower has been reported and will not be visible while under review. Depending on the calendar, the family fused Passover and Easter into one dinner. Birth date: 11 September, 1981, Friday. Failed to report flower. "What I remember most is this tremendous barrage of very hurting people," he says. In his sermon, Marxhausen spoke of God's love. Sometimes families go from funeral home to funeral home, cemetery to cemetery searching for a placewilling to offer a gravesite. Those few mourners who camearrived by circuitous routes, to avoid drawingattention to the ceremony. Columbine would open the floodgates of Kirsten's memory. Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold, the gunman, had been bullied for several years prior to the massacre. Kirsten was there for all of it. Resend Activation Email. 17:21 09 Jul 2021, updated 00:59 10 Jul 2021. 'From what I saw he was on the right track, there were times he was quiet and sullen and spent a lot of time in his room, but I have never met a 17-year-old boy for whom that is not true.'. No. 'Then you start to feel guilty, because as soon as you begin to feel happy, you begin to hate yourself. ", Marxhausen said the Klebolds have remained in seclusion because they fear "all the anger and scapegoating and blame-pointing.". Both were seniors at the Littleton high school, apparently members of a shadowy clique known as the Trenchcoat Mafia. 'Because you think, "how can I possibly feel happy when this terrible thing has happened? They are picturedexamine a sawed-off shotgun at a makeshift shooting range the year of the shooting, Following the shooting, Sue says their entire community was 'in chaos', and that their local governor went on television to hold the parents responsible, which started 'open season on their family', Sue believed her son was in a good place, happy that her he was employed, doing extracurricular activities and set to go to a university of his choice, Despite being tormented by guilt, Sue says she is finally in a better place, and has 'plenty to be thankful for', 17:21 09 Jul 2021, updated 00:59 10 Jul 2021, Queen of the cobbles! For yearsafterward, forensics experts have toiled in the wreckage of the World Trade Center, the Pentagon and the field in Pennsylvania, hoping to salvage and identify the remains of those killed. Marxhausen now lives south of Littleton in Highlands Ranch with his wife, and he ministers to a tiny, rural congregation in mountainous Idaho Springs. Please ensure you have given Find a Grave permission to access your location in your browser settings. Her son was Dylan Klebold, one of two students who killed 13 people in the 1999 massacre at Columbine High School in. A family lawyer came. And so when a desperate Tom Klebold phoned, the pastora liberal-minded Lutheranagreed to arrange a private service. The West Bowles congregation filled the Bernall's living room the week after April 20, praying and crying and praying some more. Following the shooting, Sue said their entire community was 'in chaos', and that their local governor went on television to hold the parents responsible, which started 'open season on their family'. After Columbine, local evangelicalswho said the shootings were the devils work and who used the tragedy as an opportunity to bring people to Jesusinfuriated him. A Seemingly Typical Teenager: A photo of Dylan Klebold from the book A Mothers Reckoning, by Susan Klebold. Cemetaries are often reluctant to accept the burial of a mass killer, fearing an outcry, and once a burial sites found, it frequently must be kept secret. Whether Dylan Klebold was on equal footing with Harris or simply a follower in openly admiring Hitler and white supremacy is also still unclear. The expression on Dylan's face was unfamiliar, which Byron later confessed made it easier for him. Real-time updates and all local stories you want right in the palm of your hand. . Join a discussion and talk to others in the Sysoon community. 9-11-1981 -- 17 year old son of Mr. Thomas Klebold (then 52) and Mrs. Susan (Yassenoff) Klebold (then 50), younger brother to Byron (21 at the time). We will remember him forever. ", Still, Marxhausen might have survived the Columbine tragedy with his job intact were it not for his continued relationship with the Kleboldsand his very public support of them. She also used the words toxic and judgmental. She said she doesnt know a single Jewish person in town, and one December, when she tried to buy Hanukkah candles at the grocery store, the clerks looked at her blankly. What kind of a horrible person am I to feel joy?" It was all very normal. Looking back, Klebold realizes Dylans behavior might have suggested a larger problem. What is Archives, Military records of Dylan B Klebold at Fold3.com. His is one of severalinfamous names thatcant be found in cemeteries, either because families have workedto hide them or becausethere is nothing to marktheirfinal resting place: Adam Lanza, who killed 26 people, including 20 first-graders, in the attack on Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Conn., in 2012; Seung-Hui Cho, who killed 32 people at Virginia Tech;Timothy McVeigh, the Oklahoma City bomber who was executed in 2001, are all hidden. 'They had got so much information wrong about Dylan and our family, that I settled into the belief system that they were wrong about what Dylan did.'. Friday. The two, both Columbine seniors, killed a dozen students and a teacher before taking their own lives. Shoels was killed in the shooting spree at Columbine High School (AP Photo/Michael S. Green) . Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris. According to Kirsten, the church's youth pastor at the time approached the Bernalls about writing a book on Cassie's life, her descent into sin and her acceptance of Jesus. Attention: Death verified by Social security index. I thought you might like to see a memorial for Dylan Bennet Klebold I found on Findagrave.com. Long-time friends arrived; one couple was from my church. Remove advertising from a memorial by sponsoring it for just $5. Add to your scrapbook. When you're in it and so impacted by it, you just don't think about the effect it's having on you." He would get irritated when we corrected his driving, and do that teenage eye roll thing. At one point in the book, when, during his high school years, he forgets Mothers Day, Klebold snaps with frustration and shoves him against the fridge. It remained unclear at press time what forms of Judaism or Christianity, or what combination of the two, were practiced in the Klebold home. He is half Jewish as I am all Jewish. So it went for a half an hour or more. Chaplain, Adams County Jail, Colorado. cemeteries found within miles of your location will be saved to your photo volunteer list. They feared that the graves would be desecrated, among other concerns. Marxhausen now lives south of Littleton in Highlands Ranch with his wife, and he ministers to a tiny, rural congregation in mountainous Idaho Springs. Funerals, if they are even held, are expedited affairs. Several phone callers to the Jewish News have complained that the media coverage might betray an anti-Semitic bias. Yet the Rev. He is reportedly buried in Virginia but no further details are known. There was an assumption from the tragedy that Dylan had not been taught right from wrong, she told me recently in a phone interview. Klebolds body was cremated and his family held a small memorial service. But Tom [her now ex-husband] and I knew exactly what had happened in our home all those years we parented Dylan, and we were equally sure the answer wasnt there, she wrote in the book. Harris's father, Wayne, 50, is a retired Air Force pilot who works in aviation safety as a civilian, and his mother, Kathy, 49, runs a catering business. As I walked into the incredibly tension-filled room, I knew that the service I had prepared was not appropriate. A system error has occurred. Sue Klebold is the mother of Dylan Klebold, one of the two shooters who committed the Columbine High School massacre, murdering 12 students and a teacher. This memorial has been copied to your clipboard. After the shooting, Sue considered leaving her hometown, but decided against it so she could stay close to her support network of friends and neigbours who have stuck by her side. 'For not being someone he could come to and talk to, for not knowing how to listen properly to him, that's what I would wish from him. This relationship is not possible based on lifespan dates. There is a July 1999 article in a magazine called "The Director which is a publication for professionals in the mortuary biz. Try again later. Susan and her non-Jewish husband, Thomas Klebold, who operate Fountain Real Estate Mortgage Management from their home, have been residents of Littleton since 1990. 'What I remember doing was just wanting to crawl in that casket with him, he was so cold I just kept thinking, I've got to get him warm, I just wanted him to be warm. GREAT NEWS! I turned it off., Still, Marxhausen might have survived the Columbine tragedy with his job intact were it not for his continued relationship with the Kleboldsand his very public support of them. Are you sure that you want to delete this memorial? Dylan recited the Four Questions at a Passover seder recently held at his family home, yet he was buried in a Lutheran service on Saturday. He also shot his mother before he carried out the school rampage. Copyright 1999 You need a Find a Grave account to continue. DENVER Dylan Klebold, one of two suspects in last week's bloodbath at Columbine High School, led a life of contradictions. Marxhausen hated the whole thing. Hell also lose his Lamborghini, Motorcyclist launched from bike when his girlfriend hits him with truck, Florida cops say, A man went in for kidney removal. This memorial website was created in memory of Dylan B Klebold, 17, born on September 11, 1981 and passed away on April 20, 1999. Pregnant Princess Beatrice dresses her bump in a 340 Self Portrait frock as she joins husband Edo and aunt Sophie Wessex at Wimbledon in first official outing since announcing she's expecting, Off to the races! A small mountain of beanie babies was piled around the boy's head, covering the self-administered wound that killed him. Susan Klebold grew up in Ohio with a Jewish father and a Christian mother. There are no volunteers for this cemetery. Similarly, Marxhausen said, the Klebolds are right to grieve their son's death, despite the momentous tragedy he helped cause. Sometimes graves are not marked for the opposite reason: Authorities fear they might become a place of worship. The media circus had begun, and Tom, on the best of days, is a private person. I called John Horan of Horan & McConaty Funeral Service, Denver, Colorado, and together we made funeral arrangements for Dylan Klebold. She discusses her own humanity as well by outlining her blindness to her sons depression and unhappiness, and to his plan to kill. DENVER Dylan Klebold, one of two suspects in last weeks bloodbath at Columbine High School, led a life of contradictions. All we have in the house is a BB gun to shoot the woodpeckers. In 1999, Klebold and Harris opened fire at Columbine High School in Littleton, Colorado, killing 12 classmates and a teacher and wounding 26 others before killing . Image by Courtesy of the Klebold Family, By Britta Lokting Please use Chrome, Safari, Firefox, or Edge to view this site. The mythology was that they were Nazis and Goths, and it was wrong, and people still believe this is fact, even though there is no evidence to show this was true, she said. You have to be prepared to hurt when you go into the ministry. Becoming a Find a Grave member is fast, easy and FREE. Yet the Rev. Note: Do you have a family photo of Dylan B Klebold? I dont see anyone making a big deal about the fact that Harris was Catholic. Cookie Notice Sue has said herself that Dylan has no memorial site to visit. That wasnt the young man Susan Klebold raised. "God, who knows about suffering and pain and loss, wants to reach out to you," he told the grieving parents, according to news accounts. Denver area Jews, meanwhile, have expressed discomfort at the emphasis being paid to Klebolds alleged Jewishness. Klebold said her son didnt identify with being Jewish. But its something. The families and survivors grieve, and the nation grieves with them. "I was becoming somewhat toxic with my visibility and extrovertedness.". The notion that she hadnt raised her son to be a moral human became a prevalent theory that followed her for years. Try again later. He admired Hitler, yet his great-great grandfather was a respected Jewish philanthropist in Ohio. His family and few friends shared memories, the happy ones about Dylan the Boy Scout, Dylan the Little Leaguer, Dylan the wrestler. "Cassie Bernall deserved to have a book written about her, but if there was reason to believe that it wasn't truthful, then it's a disservice to her memory and to the community. This is a carousel with slides. She reportedly told Grantz: Its so hard to see my son portrayed as a monster when that isnt the boy I know. All photos appear on this tab and here you can update the sort order of photos on memorials you manage. Franklin Graham was beating me up through my TV, he says. Don Marxhausen believed that. Lakewood, Jefferson County, Colorado, USA, Littleton, Jefferson County, Colorado, USA. Enjoy free access to the most up-to-date SSDI search for individuals with International Social Security numbers. My disbelief turned into sadness as I learned that John Tomlin, a boy from my church, Foothills Bible Church, died in the library that day. The quiet group huddled around an open California grave Tuesday, flanked by armed FBI agents. The clean-cut, grieving classmates of the fallen tried to make sense of what was senseless. The Washington Post Company. 'He was just there in a cardboard box and they allowed us each to have a few minutes with him,' said Sue. 'I saw it was planned, I saw video tapes they had made, I saw Dylan in a way I had never seen him before, they were talking about what they were going to do, it showed him with weapons. She appeared onBBC Four documentary Raising a School Shooter where she broke down while remembering his funeral, The 72-year-old said broke don in floods of tears as she revealed that her son was laid to rest in a cardboard box, and that she was terrified to leave the premise in case someone 'hurt him' or stole his body, Klebold and Eric Harris opened fire at their suburban Denver school, killing 13 people and injuring a further 24 in the attack, For months Sue was in denial about what her her son had done and police had to show footage of her son andHarris openly speaking about the attack. Until recently, Sue was on the Mortuary Science Program Advisory Committee and made certain that the program functioned under the guidelines of the Americans with Disabilities Act. His father claimed his body but the burial site is unknown. This decision has haunted him ever since. She attempted to paint a very real portrait of Dylan and insisted on his humanity, said Andrew Solomon, who wrote about the Klebolds in his 2012 book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity, and wrote the introduction to Klebolds memoir. Learn more about merges. But the public's only glimpse into their psyches has been through the blurry lens of their schoolmates whose perceptions of the two varied widely. Klebold says that she used to believe God was watching over her family. Id do the same thing tomorrow, even if people get angry. His mother considered herself Jewish, yet the family belonged to a Lutheran church. Her private school had a chapel, which she visited every day. For those who attended the service, it was as if Dylans life had ended at age 12, not five years later in a murderous rampage that left 12 students, a teacher, and the two killers dead, and a nation grieving and groping for answers. To use this feature, use a newer browser. 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